What is Your Ultimate Reward as a Writer?

Why do you write? We all write for something. We all seek some reward. What reward do you seek? A finished article? A published book? A rave review? The satisfaction of self-expression? An expanded platform? Three-book contract?

There are many rewards for writers, but perhaps the most gratifying is simply finding your audience. Not just any reader. Readers with whom your message resonates. Readers who identify with your main character, engage in your plot, and settle into your setting. Readers who want to hear your voice well beyond your first book. Readers so deeply involved in what you’re writing that they see themselves in your story. And, readers who can sense “truth” in your fiction as they uncover insights in your fictional world that shed light in their everyday reality.

Perhaps Richard Paul Evans, the #1 bestselling author of The Christmas Box, said it best: “Every now and then, we find that one book that reaches us deep inside and introduces us to ourselves. And, in someone else’s story, we come to understand our own.”

As writers, isn’t this what we’re trying to achieve? Aren’t we, essentially trying to write that book or article that reaches deep inside our readers and introduces them to themselves—in such a way, that through our story, they come to understand their own? This, to me, is the ultimate reward for a writer.


WRITER-to-WRITER:  What do you think? Why do you write? What is your ultimate reward as a writer? Please comment. I want to know what other writers think.


To learn more about Richard Paul Evans and his thirty novels, visit www.richardpaulevans.com

Photo by Alejandro Escamilla on Unsplash.


New Look, Same Inspirational Content

Welcome back to The Writer’s Refuge, the blog specifically designed for writers to find a place to “pause” from the pressures and deadlines of the writing life. A place to break away from the writing routine, and for just a few minutes, find insight, inspiration or simply a brief word of encouragement.

Perhaps this blog looks different to you. We have a fresh, new look. Notice the clean white design, and the bold, easy to read font. This theme also features a light color scheme, a two column format, a featured header image, and a photo of the author. (Yeah, that’s me.)

The Writer’s Refuge still contains: 1) helpful writing tips, 2) fresh ideas, 3) pithy quotes from successful writers, 4) advice for overcoming writing obstacles, but most of all, 5) inspirational thoughts to apply to your writing life.

The “About the Author” and “Why Writers Read This Blog” pages have been updated and if you haven’t subscribed to this blog, you still have that option.

I hope you enjoy the clean, contemporary new look of The Writer’s Refuge. There’s more great content coming soon.

Keep writing.


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Voices from the Shelf

Words are powerful! They speak to us across time and space. We don’t have to be present when they were written for them to tug at our hearts or stimulate our thinking today. That, is beauty of books! Gilbert Highet said it best (and I’ve shared this quote about books before), but it bears repeating:

“These are not books, lumps of lifeless paper, but MINDS alive on the shelves. From each of them goes out its own voice…and just as the touch of a button on your set will fill the room with music, so by taking down one of these volumes and opening it, one can call into range the voice of a man far distant in time and space, and hear him speaking to us, mind to mind, heart to heart.” 

Books are, in essence, minds and voices alive on the shelves. We hear the voice of the author and we relate to his thoughts, identify with her characters, embrace his ideas, relax in her setting, or engage in her premise and plot.

I experienced this recently with a favorite author of my late Uncle Jim. The writer was Og Mandino, a bestselling author of over 13 books. The most famous is The Greatest Salesman in the World, followed by The Greatest Miracle in the World and The Greatest Success in the World. I had forgotten about Og Mandino, but I remember how much Uncle Jim had admired him and followed his work. My uncle was the president of a small publishing company with national reach so he often had the opportunity to meet famous authors. He had met Og Mandino and was captivated by his books and his parable storytelling style.

Recently, I stumbled across The Greatest Miracle in the World in a book store. I read the cover, back cover and the About the Author section. Soon, this 108-page paperback began to look and feel familiar. I had read it before and I recalled how strongly Uncle Jim had encouraged me to read Mandino’s books when I was a young adult.

I read two pages in the store. Then a few more. The hook was set. Before I knew it, the Highet quote above came to life for me. I had “called into range the voice of Og Mandino far distant in time and space and heard him speaking to me” in the way my uncle so appreciated. Mandino’s fluid style, compelling plots and life changing messages pulled me in.

This unexpected reintroduction to Mandino’s work led me to read five of his books, all of which, in some way, reminded me of my uncle, the values he lived by, the interests he held and his love of literature. Funny how he must have known I would one day love the literature he loved.

It’s been an inspiring journey to rediscover Og Mandino again, and more importantly, to be reminded of something my uncle cherished. And, I realized something else. All those years ago Uncle Jim’s intention might have been to not only challenge me to read meaningful literature, but perhaps, someday, write it.

Thanks, Mr. Mandino, for sharing your voice across time and space, and in some small way, for bringing my uncle back to me—if only for a moment.


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5 Reasons Why Writers Should Attend Writers Conferences

What’s the best way to advance your writing career? My advice? Attend a writer’s conference. The sooner, the better.

alejandro-escamilla-1I’ve been writing for years with good success, but I’ve been writing alone, in a silo. No writer connections, camaraderie, critique or competition to keep me at the top of my game. I just got back from Write-To-Publish, a Christian writers conference on the Wheaton College campus in Wheaton, Illinois, and it delivered all of these things and so much more.

Here are five reasons why you should attend a writers conference.

  1. Connect with a Community of Colleagues. Ditch the silo and get connected. The first thing you notice at a writer’s conference is, well, other writers. Writers with a common passion, inspiring projects and similar publication challenges. You’re in this together. It won’t take long before feelings of competition yield to camaraderie. And, you’ll sharpen each other as your colleagues critique your work and you return the favor.
  2. Meet, Network, and Pitch Agents & Editors. A writer’s conference is the perfect place to meet and network with agents and editors–up close and personal. Yes, it’s intimidating to pitch them a book that consumed two years of your life in a 15-minute time slot. And yes, before it’s over they’ll know if you can write and if your book will sell. Judgement comes quickly. But you’ll never learn more so don’t let fear get in the way. If they’re interested in your book you have a leg up because agents and editors prefer to work with writers they meet at conferences. They also often share nuances about the best way to communicate with them on future projects.
  3. Cultivate Your Craft & Refine Your Writing Skills. Continuing classes educate you on: writing fiction, non-fiction, personal experiences, creating your website or blog, how to pitch an agent or acquisitions editor, ghostwriting, building a social media platform, writing book proposals, developing a marketing plan, how to write faster and sell everything you write.
  4. Focus Your Writing Priorities. I attended this conference to find out what agents and editors need, not hope they want what I’ve written. The agent and editor panel discussions presented what each publication requires and how to submit to them. I came home with a list of what’s hot and what’s not so I can focus my writing priorities on what the market needs now! The panels also expanded my thinking to supplement my fiction writing with exciting non-fiction opportunities.
  5. Revive Your Commitment to Write. Surrounded by other writers, there’s no better environment to revive your commitment to write and stimulate you to slide behind your computer—and stay there.

So, if you’re wondering what’s the best way to advance your writing career, here’s one practical answer; attend a writers conference.


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Feeling the Words You Write

Writer's Digest Cover, October, 2017We all have heard the admonition to write with passion. What we have not heard nearly enough is to write with empathy. In other words, “feel” the words you write. The focus, then, is on who we are writing about and how to get the reader to be a part of that experience. I learned this lesson several years ago and share it with you now in a story just published in the October, 2017 issue of Writer’s Digest magazine on book stores shelves now. (Page 10.)

This short 600-word story in the “5-Minute Memoir” column has already received a warm response so I have posted it below and will post the online link to the magazine after October 10 when it is available online. In the meantime, my hope is it will help you in your journey to become a better writer.


Feeling the Words You Write

It’s ten o’clock on Tuesday morning. Most people are hard at work trying to earn a living. I’m interviewing Katie, mother of three, who’s doing her best just to keep living. Katie is dying of ovarian cancer. She’s 27. She has three months to live. Three months to agonize over what life might be like if her health care provider had approved appropriate chemotherapy treatment in a timely fashion. Katie’s goal now is to live till tomorrow.

For me, tomorrow is just another day—Wednesday. I’ll be writing a brochure for an architectural firm. On Thursday, I’ll write an ad for a Fortune 500 company. And on Friday, I’ll draft a speech for an executive. I’ve been hired by a local health care facility to write the story explaining how it helped prolong Katie’s life after a competing health care system failed her.

My tape recorder is running and I’m interviewing Katie. As she answers my question, her 4-year old son, David, climbs into my lap and gives me a hug. Suddenly, I don’t feel like the writer. I feel like I’m part of a similar story.

My mind shoots back to a balmy June afternoon in 1965. My father just returned from the hospital. He calls his six children, ages 4 to 14, into his bedroom. “Your mother passed away today,” he says. Panic seizes our hearts. My mother died after a short battle with cancer. She was 45. I was 11.

I feel the eerie irony of David’s childhood colliding with mine. Tears well in my eyes as I know he will soon no longer enjoy the security of his mother’s embrace, the warmth of her touch, the power of her encouragement, even the fragrance of her perfume.

Back at my home office I write a lead for the story.

Cancer. Next to heart disease, it’s the leading cause of death in America. All of us know or love someone who has fallen prey to this impartial killer. If Katie Miller didn’t have to fight her former health care provider for an accurate diagnosis, she might not have to fight cancer today. Now, she’s not only fighting for her health, she’s fighting for time. This is her story.

This lead feels cold. Sterile. Empty. As I replay the interview I sense I’m writing Katie’s story like one of my business articles—with my head. No heart.

I hammer out another lead, then another. Still sterile, unfeeling. Finally, I tap this out:

For Katie Miller, life is short. At 27, she’s just seen her last Christmas, her last wedding anniversary and her final birthday. She knows she will never see Jenny, her 6-year old, finish the first grade. She knows she won’t be there when David, 4, loses his baby teeth. And she grieves knowing Joanna, 3, will never remember her.

Katie is dying of ovarian cancer. She has three months to live. But the real tragedy is it didn’t have to be this way.

I finish the article a few days later and send it to my client so Katie’s story will appear in a local publication.

Writing is a cerebral profession. Yet, to tell Katie’s story, I needed to feel the words I wrote.

Perhaps Hemingway said it best. “A writer’s problem does not change. It’s always how to write truly and having found what is true, to project it in such a way that it becomes a part of the experience of the person who reads it.”

I suppose I could’ve learned how to feel the words I write from Hemingway; but Katie taught me first.


Writing for Legacy

My father considered himself an ordinary man. But to me, and my five siblings, whom he raised alone following my mother’s premature death, he was nothing short of extraordinary. As a member of what Tom Brokaw christened the “Greatest Generation,” my father, a World War II vet, never talked about himself. So, naturally he wouldn’t approve of me talking about him now–much less writing about him.

But that’s exactly what I’ve been doing since his death from Alzheimer’s disease eight years ago. I’m writing about how this ordinary man etched an indelible mark on, at the very least, his six children and eleven grandchildren. How am I doing it? Well, one way is I’m watching for opportunities in publications that are, in essence, looking for snapshots of the life he lived.

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So, for example, when the editors at Chicken Soup for the Soul send me a story call-out for stories about “what makes America great” for a new book entitled, The Spirit of America, I responded with an article about the men and women in our Armed Forces that protected this country in World War II. And, I told my father’s story of service as a U.S. Marine serving in the South Pacific and later stationed in Iwo Jima.

The story is entitled, A Devotion to Duty, and the book was recently published and released nationwide in early June. The book is intended, in part, to commemorate, the 15th Anniversary of 9/11 today. The story focuses on why the men and women of the “Greatest Generation” so willingly volunteered to serve their country at one of the most tumultuous times in our history.

Many of the articles and stories I write these days celebrate the quiet legacy of integrity and devotion my father demonstrated to his country, his wife and his children.

Do you want to write for legacy? Do you have someone you want to honor? Consider checking out the Chicken Soup for the Soul website. There you will learn about new books you can write for, the type of stories the editors are looking for to include in their anthologies and precisely how to submit your stories.

Most importantly, you just might find a home to publish a story you’ve wanted to tell that will not only engage their readers; it will honor the legacy of someone you love.


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Why Writers Never Take a Vacation (But How to Benefit if You Do)

Writer--VacationI’m a writer. I’m on vacation this week. But I can’t take a vacation—because I’m a writer.


The truth is writers rarely take a vacation. That is, a vacation from their writing. Why? Simple. Our mind won’t let us. Sure, we can take time off and escape our 9-to-5 life. We can travel to some exotic location. But, we can’t take time off from writing—or thinking about writing.

We never know when a new idea will strike, the perfect opening line of our article will emerge, or a captivating ending to our book will crystallize and tap us on the shoulder and say, “Hey, write this down.” Our muse is a strange thing. It arrives unannounced. Thus, it never lets us take our vacation alone. It must come along for the ride. My wife has gotten used to this phenomenon. She graciously allows my writing to stowaway with us on most vacations.

“But my vacation is for relaxation, not writing,” you say. “I can’t possibly write productively on my vacation. Besides, writing during my vacation will not be good for me or my writing,” you insist. I beg to differ. With the proper balance of rest and writing, both you and your writing can benefit.

Here are three ways a vacation can improve your writing:

  • Vacations allow you to unplug your 9-to-5 life and set your mind free. Think of your vacation as a brief sabbatical. It’s a time to rest, relax and yes, write. But in that order. When you relax you not only set your mind free to think clearly, you allow it to think differently—to explore different story angles and points of view. And a vacation refreshes your thinking because you are free from the deadlines that typically constrain you. Most importantly, on vacation, you can write at the time of day when you have the most energy, creativity and inspiration.
  • Vacations allow you to change environments to invigorate your writing. There is nothing like a new environment to fuel your creativity. I’m writing this blog outside on my patio overlooking a striking tree-line, wetlands and a pond. (Sure beats an office.) I once vacationed in Monterey, California, near Cannery Row, the setting for the 1945 novel of the same name by author, John Steinbeck. Talk about getting in the mood to write. Vacations allow you to change locations, climates, venues, and scenery which elevate your mood, energy and your writing.
  • Vacations (especially staycations) boost productivity by naturally putting you in a “start & finish” mode. This week on my staycation, I will be starting and finishing several tasks: cut the lawn, change the oil in the car, clean the garage, repair a bike tire, etc. How does my writing benefit? These small tasks thrust me in a mode (and mood) to start and finish projects. I will exploit this momentum to get some writing projects started and finished during my vacation.

So, I guess it’s true.  Writers never really take a vacation because even if they’re not writing—they’re thinking about writing.


What are you writing for?

Walt DisneyWhat’s the most important thing to remember as a writer? From where I sit (and write), two things. I never want to forget why I’m writing and who I writing for. It’s easy to forget these two things if you’re preoccupied with publication or you’re enjoying so much success that you forget what got you there. Thankfully, there is enough rejection in this business to keep us grounded, focused, and consequently, writing.

Yet, I love the advice Walt Disney and F. Scott Fitzgerald bring to the essence of storytelling despite their immense success. Fitzgerald, author of The Great Gatsby, said, “You don’t write because you want to say something…you write because you have to say something.” This speaks of the innate compulsion all writers feel to express themselves and why we must write—or burst.

Walt Disney also never lost sight of his reason for being, “We don’t make movies to make money, we make money so we can make more movies.” In other words, it’s about “the work,” the craft, the story, and the audience entertained, changed or moved by that story. Writing is about the “process,” not merely the end.

Writing. It’s hard work. Painstaking work. And yes, often painful work. Yet, it’s also there’s-nothing-I’d-rather-be-doing work, despite often delayed rewards. We persevere because we know every master began as an apprentice and good writing is nothing more than good rewriting.

Never lose sight of why you write and who you are writing for. Besides, there’s a fringe benefit to doing the work; the desire to write grows with writing.

Keep writing.


For more on this subject, type “process” in the search box at right.

How to Give Your Writing Routine a Creative Boost

Book Cover of Austin Kleon's New York Times Bestseller
Book Cover of Austin Kleon’s New York Times Bestseller

Welcome to The Writer’s Refuge. Thanks for visiting or revisiting. If you’re new to this blog, take a look around. If you click on “Why Writers Read This Blog” at right, you’ll discover that it is designed to encourage writers to chase their dreams no matter where you are on your path to publication.

Here you will find advice, encouragement, pithy quotes, ideas, and tips from other published writers. And so, I often recommend books that have profoundly influenced me and taken both my writing, and my writing routine, up a notch. Most importantly, I recommend books that I trust will influence you and your work. For example, I just read Austin Kleon’s New York Times Bestseller Steal Like An Artist, 10 Things Nobody Told You About Being Creative. Great book! Very inspirational. Powerfully motivating. And refreshingly different from anything out there.

Why is it different? Kleon bills himself as, “a writer that draws.” Thus, his books are quick reads that are chock full of his creative line drawings that brilliantly illustrate his main points. What about his writing? Crisp, clean, creative and poignant. I finished reading this book in less than two hours, pondered his suggestions for a week, read it again, and then took copious notes in my journal so I could infuse his ideas into my writing routine.

The premise of the book is simple:  all great artists essentially steal ideas from each other, hitchhike on those ideas, expand them, and then turn them into something better. Something unique. Something their own. Kleon recommends studying one artist or writer you really love, and then learn everything you can about them and their influences. Kleon says, “The great thing about dead or remote masters is that they can’t refuse you as an apprentice. You can learn whatever you want from them. They left their lesson plans in their work.”

 Steal Like An Artist is packed with great gems to chew on—and keep chewing on. I’ll leave you with just one thought vital to me as I battle for more writing time daily since my day job devours the clock.

Kleon says, “The worst thing a day job does is take time away from you, but it makes up for that by giving you a daily routine in which you can schedule a regular time for your creative pursuits. Establishing and keeping a routine can be even more important than having a lot of time.”

 So true. This helped change my perspective and I put this thought to work by writing with a vengeance every Saturday morning from nine till noon at my local Barnes & Noble bookstore café. As a result, I have cranked out more articles, began revising an old novel, advanced a new novel, and mapped out where I want to take my writing career in 2016 and 2017. This is crucial time for me because it is a scheduled routine for my creative pursuits.

So, need a quick shot of inspiration? Want to feel like the artist you are? Pick up Austin Kleon’s easy read, Steal Like An Artist or visit his website (www.austinkleon.com) and subscribe to his free weekly newsletter on creativity. It’s working for me, maybe it will help you too.

Keep writing.

(For another blog post on the subject of finding more time to write, type “Darkness” in the search box at right.)


Finding Inspiration in Your Own Words

My Parents, 1948 A Short Marriage. Six Children. Enviable Love.
My Parents, 1948
A Short Marriage. Six Children. Enviable Love.

Do you have a novel inside you? Is it screaming to get out? Are you desperate to share it with the world?

I have a novel rattling around in my head, actually more than one, but one in particular. This novel has been taunting me to write it for at least five years. The problem is, as it always is, to carve out enough time to write it and do it justice. Allow me to share it with you.

The story theme: “Love after loss.” The story premise: If you lose your spouse prematurely (and you had a great marriage) can you ever love again? In the same way? With the same depth? How do you fill that emotional Black Hole? What would you unknowingly compromise? What would you always hold in reserve for your first love? And if or when you dare to love again how do you avoid the comparison trap or the guilt trap? The working title: “To Love Again.” The opening lines: Is anyone ever the same after they lose someone they love? I mean, really the same.

This will be a work of fiction although it parallels my father’s life. He lost his wife, my mother, prematurely and he raised six young children alone. In his case, he never gave himself permission to “love again.” I want to delve into this deep emotional struggle after a debilitating loss.

Why am I sharing this with you?

Well, because as writers, we’re always looking for inspiration. And while we often find it in others or in their work, sometimes we find inspiration in ourselves—in our lives—and in our words. For example, I have been writing this novel in my head for years, yet I don’t have much on paper. Yesterday, while I was writing in my journal I was struck with a thought that crystalized why I must write this story. Here are the words that came to me:

“My father loved my mother with his whole heart, lost her to cancer, raised six children alone, and for 40 years not a day went by that he didn’t think of her. That deserves a book! And I’m going to write it.”

After I recorded these words in my journal, I read and them over and over again. And while they are not a revelation to me, they inspire me because they speak to the intense sentiment that resides in my soul. My point? Sometimes inspiration strikes not from the outside, but from the inside. Inspiration often comes not as a lightning bolt, but as a shaft of light that gently shines on a singular area of our life that deserves more light, more insight, more reflection or introspection.

And this light can uncover or rediscover a rich life lesson. Yes, we can draw inspiration for our writing from many sources, but sometimes we find inspiration in our own words. So, don’t forget to look within.

What have you written that inspires you to keep writing?